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The Suffocating Feelings - Photo by Yan Krukau: https://www.pexels.com Have you ever woken up in the middle of the night, haunted by thoughts that just wouldn’t let you rest? That was me a few nights ago. Something was bothering me, something that had been lingering in my heart for the past week. No matter how much I tried to shake it off, it kept resurfacing, demanding my attention. When I traced back to the root of my discomfort, I found the source. The memories played fresh in my mind, as if they had just happened yesterday (even though, in reality, they were from years ago). And the trigger? A recent conversation with a friend who saw me as misguided and attempted to “bring me back” to what she believed was the right path. I regretted engaging in that conversation. I could have stayed silent or changed the topic, but instead, I challenged her viewpoint. I wanted her to realize that we were no longer on the same journey, so she would respect me and let me walk my path. But just as I...

Say Thanks -  Photo by Kelly: https://www.pexels.com/photo Have you ever wanted to say something to someone, but never did? Maybe it’s telling someone how much you appreciate them. Maybe it’s confessing your feelings to that one person who makes your heart race. Or maybe it’s something as simple as thanking a loved one for always being there. But for whatever reason, the words never leave your mouth.  And what if this is the time, the moment for you to let it out of your chest, even if it is only through a simple note or letter that you don’t even need to send it to them? I wasn’t actually thinking about it. But the other day, I found myself in one of those reflective moods, something I hadn’t really anticipated.  It all started when I decided to break from my usual habit of listening to podcasts while doing chores. Instead, I stumbled upon an app and tuned into the radio. The shift felt refreshing, exposing me to an entirely different experience that I hadn’t encountered...

  New Year's Resolutions -  Photo by freestocks.org: https://www.pexels.com Do you like making New Year’s resolutions? But do you sometimes find yourself get stuck even before mid year? If you do, I got you. Well, I used to love crafting mine, imagining a fresh start filled with all the positive energy. Yet, over the years, I started to acknowledge the same pattern repeated: m y resolutions often turned into little more than beautifully penned aspirations in my journal, forgotten weeks later as life swept me away. Funny, though... how each year I’d tell myself, “This time will be different.” But it never was. I don’t know how you see it, but I found myself amusing knowing that I still didn’t give up doing it. I wanted to improve myself, and I knew that I shouldn't play the broken old record. I mean... wouldn't I just be a fool: doing the same thing but expecting different results? I turned to every piece of advice I could find. I attended seminars hosted by inspiring speak...

Finding Balance in Communication -  Photo by Alex Andrews: https://www.pexels.com People often say that communication is the foundation of any relationship. A strong, lasting bond can be built on the practice of good communication skills. And yes, this theory sounds logical. It’s easy to nod along and agree: open communication should lead to better understanding, fewer conflicts, and stronger connections. But the reality? It’s not always that straightforward. My Point of View about Communication Changed I used to believe in this theory wholeheartedly. Not just believe in it, but practice it diligently. I thought that as long as I communicated openly: shared my thoughts, feelings, and concerns, everything would work out for the better. Well, it worked for a while, until it didn’t. I got stuck, tangled in a web of words and emotions that didn’t seem to bring the clarity or resolution I’d been promised. Soon, I reached a point where I didn’t know how to bridge the gap between communic...

People change and that’s our nature. So, lumrah dan wajar saja bila perubahan ini kemudian banyak berperan dalam kelangsungan interkonektivitas antara manusia satu dan lainnya. Entah itu keluarga, sahabat, teman, kekasih, ataupun pasangan, pada satu titik semua pasti mengalaminya. Namun saat perubahan itu tidak sejalan dengan apa yang kita yakini, I believe it’s totally okay to say, “Sorry, I choose not to engage with the way you practice self-growth.” If ever there’s one huge thing I’ve done and continuously practiced in my healing journey, that would be drawing boundaries. Sebagaimana saat kita berkendara di jalan, menjaga jarak aman menjadi kunci penting terhadap keselamatan kita, and so is the relationship we manage with other humans. Drawing boundaries is indeed a great milestone for me. Sama sekali bukan hal yang mudah untuk dilakukan, terutama saat pertama kali. Namun ini adalah cara yang sehat dalam membina hubungan saat kita menjalani peran sebagai social being. Gue ingat seka...